Nonjudgmental Sex Ed for Colleges, Universities, and Parents
Sex is not always the easiest topic.
When I was growing up, I had all these feelings for boys and girls and no one to talk to about them. My mom’s idea of “the talk” was to tell me “Don’t let anyone touch you there or put anything in it. If they do, come tell me”. Great, mom, but what if I wanted them to…. or any of the millions of other questions I had. Those questions led me down many roads…. researching in books, taking classes, seeking “advice” from friends, and various other encounters…trying to understand the ins and outs of sex. (pun not intended, yet a delightful accident)
All those experiences, along the spectrum, have led me here… a passionate advocate for helping young folks talk about sex in an honest and caring way without judgement or shame. Though my target audience is mostly college students, I do have options for parents who want assistance with giving “the talk” to their children.
I’m available to speak to community youth groups and for college/university groups, events, and classes. The following workshops are available to choose from or one can be specifically designed to fit your group’s needs. Please contact me here for rates and availability.
Sex! An Empowering and Honest Discussion
“Sex” … such a little word for all the drama it brings. It's all around us, in our schools, on our screens and in most of our "dirty" little minds. Yet, for some reason people are reluctant to have open, honest conversations about it. There's also so much shame and lies around sex. Lying to get it and then feeling bad that you got it. Shame that you may or may not like it, shame that you don't have enough of it, shame that you like that one weird thing and lie to yourself and your partners because you can't bring yourself to discuss it. In this workshop we're going to bust this topic wide open and start demystifying the very thing that most of us want.”
Sex and Consent: Setting Clear Boundaries for Myself and My Partner/s
What exactly is sex? A lot of people may define sex as a man, usually straight, putting his penis in the vagina of a woman, also straight, and when the “penis” is satisfied, sex has happened. Unfortunately, this limited definition excludes lots of folks and lots of types of sex. In this workshop, participants will get the opportunity to define sex for themselves and work on ways to talk about those definitions without shame. This workshop will then transition into learning about consent, asking for what you want, and stating what you don’t. Folks will get the chance to practice saying, and hearing, the empowering, complete sentence of “No”, the freedom of an enthusiastic yes! and be able to play with the gray areas.
Talk Support: For Parents and “The Talk”
If you feel uncomfortable giving “the talk” to your children and would like assistance, we offer Talk Support. Talk Support offers parents the information to talk to their children in age-appropriate and healthy ways that support burgeoning identities and encourage autonomy and self-knowledge. We will work together to create a conversation that respects your values and boundaries around sex, yet gives your child, or children, space to examine their own feelings about the subject. Talk Support is here to offer parents a boost in their communication skills around sex and sexuality. We focus on expressing and hearing consent, understanding nuance in sexual communication and appropriate vocabulary for your children to fully express themselves.